Saturday, March 3, 2012

Dreaming Of Pink or Blue

Our gender determination ultrasound is coming up so fast. Even though we will not be announcing the gender until the baby shower, my husband and I are excited to find out. My 16 week appointment with my MFM is this Friday and I am going to try to con the ultrasound tech into looking. They are pretty strict about not telling the gender until the anatomy scan which will be done between 18 and 20 weeks so I am not sure if it will work. My husband and I are so excited about finding out that we booked an elective ultrasound two weeks from today at one of those elective ultrasound boutiques. They require you to be 16 weeks or more (we will be 16+3) at the time of the appointment. This early on they only do an enhanced 2D ultrasound to determine gender, which is fine with me. We get a 15 minute session, two pictures, and if we want, they can record our babies heartbeat into a stuffed bear. I love this idea!

No matter if my doctor's office will tell us or we have to wait until our elective ultrasound, we have decided that we are going to have them write the babies gender down on a piece of paper and seal it in an envelope. We are then going to go to our local Baby Gap and pick out one girl and one boy outfit, which we will use to bring our baby home in from the hospital. I will tell the store associate that we want them to open the envelope and charge us for whatever outfit goes with the gender. I will ask them to wrap it up so we can't see which one it is and bring it to me as I will be waiting at the front of the store. My husband and I will then go home and open it together in the soon to be nursery. I honestly don't know who is more excited, him or me!

I would like to say that my husband has been absolutely amazing, especially over these past few weeks. Not only has he been to every single appointment since my egg retrieval 13 weeks ago, he is also taking part in the design of the nursery and even looks forward to the time that we lay down together and listen to our Little Cannoli's heartbeat on our doppler at home. This morning we listened to it for five minutes or so and he was just giddy about how loud the heartbeat is becoming and how much you can hear the baby moving around in there. The MFM has already told us that the baby is quite active, and even has a bit of an attitude...just like me! He is even taking the whole "stay at home dad" thing in stride. As much as I would like to be a stay at home mom, I just can't as my job supports our household. I am lucky in the sense that I don't sit in an office all day as my office is in my home and I am on the road during the day. I have the flexibility to briefly stop at home in between meetings when I am working in my area. We have also chosen a backup daycare/preschool for the times that he needs to get out and do things or even work (he is an independent contractor) but we will not use the day care, unless it is an extreme emergency, before the baby is 6 months old. This daycare/preschool is 5 minutes from our house so it is very convenient. They have a per-diem drop in rate that we would take advantage of. A family member of ours uses the same place but in a different location, and absolutely loves it. She actually just told me that they are teaching her daughter, who is 9 months old, to sign. It isn't a traditional daycare where the children are just cared for, it actually takes on more of a preschool concept where they work with the child to develop skills. She has had nothing but positive things to say about this place so it is quite reassuring.

I also had the opportunity to pick my shower location yesterday and I can't wait to share the details. My MFM said that it was a good idea that I have the nursery completed and my shower completed by the time I am 28 weeks as the risk of going on strict bedrest for me goes way up. He said that even if I am put on modified bedrest that I could still attend as long as we use a wheelchair and my feet are up once I am there. Hey, we will do what we have to do. More on my shower in my next post.


  1. I am totally living vicariously through these recent posts and loving all your plans. My first didn't have a nursery to come home to since my brother was living with us at the time. My 4th will be living in the living room since we don't have a place anywhere else for him until his older brother grows out of the crib. I missed my church badement baby shower because my oldest came 5 weeks early. As for gender discovery, I just had them unceremoniously tell me at my 20 week. Hubby never was able to make any of my appointments due to work. I am not complaining....that is just how my life rolls and i am more than happy with it....but I am living all those quiet dreams as I read your plans. My happiness for you is huge and daily prayers and thoughts abound!