Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Breaking the Silence

I have said for a long time that I want to take this nightmare that I have been living for the past 2 1/2 years and turn it into something positive, something that could help others. Throughout my journey I have met many women who have traveled down the road of infertility or who have unfortunately experienced a pregnancy loss. The one thing that I have learned is that we all experience the same feelings (hopelessness, fear, failure) yet there is no where to turn for support and reassurance. Infertility and pregnancy loss is a very taboo topic despite that fact that infertility affects 7.3 million women in the U.S. This figure represents 12% of women of childbearing age, or 1 in 8 women. So if this topic is so prevalent in our society, where is all the support? Why is it that you never hear anyone talk about infertility?

I have learned that awareness must be raised about infertility and pregnancy loss. I remember back when I first started fertility treatments that the topic of infertility was something you were not supposed to talk about. It was almost like it was something to be ashamed of. It was only after going through my second loss that I also realized that miscarriage was even more of a taboo topic than infertility. So here I was, all alone with no where to turn, and no one to talk to. It wasn't until I attended a monthly support group at my clinic that I realized that I wasn't alone, that there were other women out there who were going through similar experiences. Month after month, I would sit in this group and see many new faces struggling to deal with what had been dealt to them. It was this past May, about the time that I restarted this blog, that I decided that I was going to break my silence. Infertility and pregnancy loss is no longer something that I am ashamed of. It is a part of who I am and has made me the person I am today.

Earlier today I received an email from a health editor with one of our local news stations. She asked me if I was interested in being a guest on a live "health" show that runs every Tuesday, to talk about my experience with infertility and pregnancy loss. I am very excited to be doing this and I think that this will be a great opportunity to raise awareness and to help others break their silence.


  1. Good you wll be on TV, that awesome!! :)

  2. Good for you Krystyn! You are such a strong voice and I know you will be a great advocate and support for others.

  3. So awesome! I want to break my silence too but I need to respect my hubby's wishes and his privacy.

    Good luck and wear a solid jewel color (no white or black) and no busy stripes or polka dots. Sorry, I'm a PR person so can't help but give advice :)

  4. Wow-that sounds amazing! And what a good way to put this experience to use.

  5. That is such an awesome oppoturnity! Knowing how many people are affected by infertility and pregnancy loss, it continually amazes me that there are so few resources out there for those experiencing it and that very few people seem to want to talk about it. I know it is often a private pain we feel we need to endure alone but, if we don't share with others in the same situation, how will we ever remove the stigma attached? Way to go you!

    ICLW #35

  6. Wow, Krystyn! I'm so proud of you...I think it's amazing of you share your story in such a public forum. I really admire that about you :) I can barely bring myself to tell people I know. You will be fabulous! I will be cheering you on!

  7. Good stuff. People ALWAYS know someone whos ivf worked 'first time' or they now have (insert live baby or babies number) but most people I have spoken to don't know people whose ivf cycles have failed. Why is that, do you reckon?

    I feel this is a tricky one. I am also all for raising awareness - most of the time. that said, there are also times when I want to just keep a low profile/deal with a bad day or some painful triggery experience/not draw attention to myself.
    Bit of a catch 22 I think. More awareness, and maybe I wouldn't need to be so self-protective?

    All for bringing diamonds out from the poo too

  8. Wow, awesome news! Congratulations! So proud to have an IF sister speak out and raise awareness. You are an amazing person!

    Happy ICLW!
    Carmela #77